No long form story this week (but did you catch my last newsletter), this is just a collection of thoughts from this week.
A friend once said to me “I don’t worry about you, Kim. If I don’t hear from you, I know you’re in your treehouse reading, thinking, and creating”.
Admiration — I thought a lot about the role of admiration in relationships.
“Admiration is what we feel when someone’s abilities, accomplishments, or character inspires us . . . Interestingly, admiration often leads to us wanting to improve ourselves. It doesn't however, make us want to be life the person or thing we admire —we just want to be better versions of ourselves”— pulled from my coffee table book “Atlas of the Heart” by Brene Brown.
Do you admire your partner?
Would you ever date someone you didn’t admire?
How important is mutual admiration in a relationship?
Extra points: tell someone what you admire about them.
Presence as a privilege. —on why sometimes you need to review your who has access to you.
Dopamine Menu — a collection of practices that bring me joy
Sunsets
Dancing
Morning sunlight
Morning coffee
“It is not my intention to impress him with my degrees, job, or businesses” me to a friend on why I don’t lead with my career or degrees.
In the realm of feminine and masculine polarity relationships, I've come to realize that it doesn't matter as much that I have a law degree, what job I hold, or how successful my side businesses are. My "boss babe" attitude, while powerful and essential in many areas of my life, isn't the core of what creates deep connection and attraction in a relationship. Polarity is all about the energy we bring to the table—whether it's the nurturing, intuitive, and creative feminine energy or the structured, purposeful, and action-oriented masculine energy.
When I tap into my natural feminine energy, I create space for genuine connection. It’s less about what I’ve achieved and more about how I show up—emotionally open, vulnerable, and embracing the nurturing aspects of who I am. Traits I once deemed “weak” because I wanted to be the cool, low-effort girl (we said bye to her in 2020). Feminine energy allows the masculine energy in a partner to naturally express itself, creating a beautiful balance. It’s a reminder that while my career and accomplishments are important, the real magic in relationships comes from the energetic dance between feminine and masculine, where each complements and amplifies the other.
I truly believe it’s the energy exchange, not the accolades, that truly matters in creating lasting connection.
Despite how startling this realization might be for some of my friends to hear, I’ve come to truly understand and desire this dynamic. I’ve spent time sitting with my wounds, unraveling the deep-seated beliefs that told me I needed to prove myself—that what I’ve done or achieved makes me more lovable. But what I’ve discovered is that dating in my feminine energy is one of the most powerful things I can do. There is immense power in feminine energy; it’s not about striving or proving, but about being, receiving, and creating space for genuine connection.
And it’s important to clarify—this isn’t about hiding or diminishing my accomplishments. I’m proud of what I’ve achieved, and that will always be a part of who I am. But instead of leading with my achievements, I’m choosing to hone my femininity, embracing the softer, more intuitive, and nurturing aspects of myself. When I lean into my feminine energy, I’m saying, “I am enough just as I am.” It’s a statement that I am lovable simply for who I am—not because of what I’ve accomplished or can do, but because of the love and warmth I bring into the world. This energy doesn’t demand; it attracts, it invites. It allows me to step into relationships with a sense of wholeness and grace, knowing that my true value lies in my essence, not in my achievements. This shift has been transformative, empowering me to connect more deeply and authentically, embracing the fullness of my femininity.
The belief that I need to prove myself often stems from deep-seated wounds formed early in life. These wounds are rooted in experiences where I felt that love or approval was conditional—only given when I achieved something, performed well, or met certain expectations. I grew up in an environment where success and accomplishments were highly valued, and where praise or attention was tied to how well I did rather than who I was as a person. This created a subconscious belief that my worth is directly linked to my achievements, leading me to strive constantly to prove myself, to earn love, validation, or acceptance.
But as I work through these wounds and begin to show up more fully in my feminine energy, I know that this will attract the right kind of man (for me)—one who truly values depth and authenticity over superficial impressions. A masculine man with complementary energy will be drawn to the essence of who I am, not just my achievements. His attraction will be rooted in my warmth, my heart, and the genuine energy I bring into our connection. My degrees or accomplishments are nice additions, but they aren’t what will hold his attention or deepen his respect for me. Instead, he’ll be captivated by the way I embody my feminine energy, by the way I love, and by the authentic connection we create together. In embracing my feminine energy, I’m inviting a relationship that is built on polarity, where both partners appreciate and enhance each other’s deepest qualities.
Listening to: Que Locura Enamorame De Ti
Drinking: Hungarian White —Somloi Juhfark, 2018 Vintage
In person events will be picking up this fall! Stay tuned for opportunities to meditate and reprogram your limiting beliefs with me. I blend hypnosis with deeply nourishing and relaxing soundbaths.
“There’s no one else I would want whispering sweet nothings to my subconscious” -D.C.
Want a personalized recording? Ask me if a recorded meditation with woven subliminals (aka affirmations on crack) is for you.
“Your hypnosis is becoming reality”
“The way I fully tell people [sic] hypnosis changed my life” —R.W.
In service and gratitude,
Kim
reading this is my favorite part of my mornings